I’m really grateful to Meredith Hooke over at ZenSmarts. She’s the meditation teacher who recently advised me to be wary of “I…” thoughts (thoughts which begin with “I…”)
When I get really low, I often experience the thought, “I don’t want to be here any more.”
That single thought can have a huge and fast-acting impact on my mood.
When a particular thought keeps re-occurring to you, it’s really easy to automatically accept it as true. Often, the thought feels true, so we just go along with it. And when your mood is low, it’s often even trickier to challenge any wayward thoughts.
For me, these unhelpful thoughts seem to just spring out of nowhere, over and over again, beating me down.
The more I think, “I don’t want to be here any more,” the worse my mood gets – deepening my feelings of depression and hopelessness.
I’m a total beginner at mindfulness and meditation, which is why I’m really grateful to Meredith for her advice about the “I…” thoughts. I’d been accepting those extremely depressing thoughts as true without even realising it.
Now, whenever I notice the thought, “I don’t want to be here any more,” I’m able to to just notice the thought and allow it, but without paying it any particular attention.
Just because I thought something, that doesn’t make it true! Mindfulness helps me to be indifferent to troubling thoughts.
Once I stop believing those depressing thoughts, my mood often improves spontaneously. That’s several hours (or even days) of low mood, deftly avoided.
With that simple piece of advice, Meredith has saved me a lot of suffering. Thanks so much!
If you’re interested in learning more about mindfulness or meditation, why not check out Meredith’s website, ZenSmarts?