Over the years, I’ve had a mixed relationship with coaches and therapists. Often they’ve felt of limited benefit to me and I’ve wondered if I was wasting my money.
But there was one time during coaching that I was pushed so far out of my comfort zone that I ended things immediately and asked for a pro-rata refund on the remaining sessions.
That coaching session, and specifically the technique we were using, absolutely scared the shit out of me. It almost felt like magic, or voodoo.
That was a few years ago. Now, looking back, I can see how powerful the technique actually was. And the insights it gave me at the time were bloody accurate! They still are accurate.
Nowadays, I can more fully understand how the technique actually worked. It was tapping into my unconscious mind. There’s nothing supernatural or alien about that. But, at the time, it scared me because it felt so irrational and strange. It was so outside of my usual (logical, factual) realm of experience.
As I write this, I’m actually in two minds whether I should go into detail here about the technique’s methodology. A part of me is worried that if I describe it in plain English, somehow I will rob it of its magic. I feel like I can’t fully convey precisely how amazing this technique has been for me. And I’m worried people will think I’m either insane or bullshitting. Trust me, I’m neither (though that’s what an insane person or a bullshitter would say!)
OK, let’s compromise. Let’s just call the technique “crossing the bridge” and leave it at that. If any readers would like to know more about this technique, please feel free to leave a comment below and we’ll arrange a way to chat one to one.
So, what did I learn by crossing the bridge? What lesson was imparted that has proven to be so powerful for me and my life? Well, it’s a lesson so profound that it’ll probably stay accurate and useful for the rest of my life, acting as a fundamental guiding principle.
Here we go…
“When you are crossing the bridge of life, with danger, uncertainty and death on both sides, there is one thing above all others that will keep you moving forward on the right path. That thing is awareness.”– Me, in my guru’s white robes, pretending to be a mystical old man.
What do I mean by awareness? Several things, here are some of them (in a non-exhaustive list):
- An awareness of yourself – your inner mental landscape.
- An awareness of what’s going on around you in your immediate vicinity.
- An awareness of what other people nearby are experiencing (thinking and feeling).
- An awareness of where your ideal destination is, what it looks like, and approximately how far you are towards that destination.
- An awareness of where you should (probably) place your next step.
- An awareness of any traps or unsteady ground that you’re about to traverse.
- An awareness that no matter how good or bad your current situation seems, you’re on the right path.
I’m at a weird point where I want to wrap up this blog post, but I can’t think of a good way to do it. I think the above bullet points speak for themselves. Read them. Read them again. Absorb them. Come back to them again later.
Then leave me a message in the comments section below. You can either tell me what an idiot I am, or you can tell me your own insights about crossing the bridge of life. Either is fine with me.
Bye for now.